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Brooke 🪐's avatar

I think I say this every week but this is def my favorite essay yet

caroline cherry's avatar

thank you brooke 😭🥲🥰

Haley 😬's avatar

As a someone who’s also been a lifelong hard working student, and a perfectionist, I can’t totally relate. I think that one of the biggest challenges of being an artist/writer is learning to be ok with failure, and the messiness of the creative process. Failure is how you learn and grow—it’s just a fact of life.

Thank you so much for being honest about your struggles with failure in this post! I know you may not always feel it, but I think you’re doing great👍

caroline cherry's avatar

aww thank you so much! i think you’re doing great too!! 🫶🏻

Haley 😬's avatar

Thank you!

Eugenia P. Frankenberg 🌻's avatar

beautifully written, caroline. i also think we should stop naming those who are “more likely to succeed”. it puts unnecessary pressure & overlooks hidden diamonds. i’m glad you’ve been able to sit with failure, talk to it, accept it, and move forward.

caroline cherry's avatar

thank you so much 🫶🏻🫶🏻

Jodie Jones's avatar

Teaching myself that failure is part of the process has been one of the hardest things I've ever had to. Still working on it.

caroline cherry's avatar

it’s so hard! but worth it! thank you for reading jodie 🫶🏻

Sarina's avatar

I think you’re winning 🫶🏾

caroline cherry's avatar

ily 🫶🏻🫶🏻

Rion Ashley's avatar

I love this! When I was younger I never took failure well either, and tbh, I’m not sure how good I am at it now, definitely better but not by much 😅 this is a great reminder to keep trying, always!

caroline cherry's avatar

thank you so much rion!!!

Sue Vu's avatar

thank you for the encouragement, to be brave and to put yourself out there, because failure is proof that you’ve tried and that’s already a win!

caroline cherry's avatar

absolutely! thank you so much 🫶🏻

kirby's avatar

needed to read this today😭 as someone who has massive rejection sensitivity, i needed this reminder more than you know!! as always, thank you for your beautiful words caroline🥹🩵

caroline cherry's avatar

this means everything! thank you so much kirby!!!

Hannah Brooke's avatar

This is SO good Caroline!! 👏❤️

caroline cherry's avatar

thank you so much!!

Liv's avatar

As a fellow grad student this hits home. The fear of failing has kept me from starting projects but I’m trying to rewire how I determine what failure really looks like. Much like you, it’s not longer an F but something within myself.

caroline cherry's avatar

yeah absolutely! thank you for reading!

Emma Krab's avatar

Caroline, I feel this SO deeply. Thank you sm for sharing your thoughts 💕

caroline cherry's avatar

thank YOU 🫶🏻🫶🏻

Catherine's avatar

Thank you for this little window into your mind. I loved this. This is going to encourage a lot of people!

caroline cherry's avatar

thank you so much!

Chris's avatar

Love it.

Aaron's avatar

Incredible work Caroline

caroline cherry's avatar

thank you aaron 🥲

nature's avatar

This is such an important thing to remember. Most of the time, when I face failure, I feel like my whole plan for life is collapsing and everything will go downhill, but that never ends up being the case, life just moves on. It will keep moving on. So thank you for reminding me of this again <3

caroline cherry's avatar

yes exactly! failure is not the end of the story🫶🏻 thank you so much nature!!

Anoushka's avatar

this was beautiful as ever!!!!! i've always been TERRIFIED of failure and delayed applying to colleges for undergrad because of that and a whole lot of other things, but i've been trying to do things despite fearing them lately (re: lit mag submissions) and it feels great while simultaneously feeling absolutely terrible because at least i'm trying!! and if i don't try i've already failed either way